Erika & Frida are ENGAGED! They met on TINDER just about two years ago and, despite the fact that neither Erika nor Frida was “looking for a serious relationship,” they’ve been together ever since! When they first got together, Frida was an exchange student visiting from Sweden, but decided to extend her stay because things with Erika were going so well...they even had their first “marriage convo” AFTER THREE WEEKS! Their one major conflict centered around a Thanksgiving with Erika’s family shortly after Erika came out. Even though both Erika and Frida KNEW they shared something special, it was difficult to get Erika’s family on board, which meant that a trip that should have been fun and exciting turned out to be awkward and ultimately took a lot of time and energy to recover from. They also chat with Julia about dealing with friends not adapting well to their burgeoning relationship, and about how blended families – and the nuanced relationships that come out of them – often require more sensitivity and care. Julia is HAVING A MOMENT as she does NOT believe in soul mates, but she thinks Erika and Frida…are. Congratulations on your engagement, Erika & Frida!
Deb & Dani have been MARRIED for EXACTLY THREE WEEKS!!! They met about six and a half years ago through a mutual friend and were good friends for about two years before they started dating. Though Deb had never dated a woman before, Dani was crushing on Deb HARD… and flirted her way into Deb’s heart. Deb and Dani address conflict in very different ways; Deb tends to get emotional while Dani is much more logical and calm when they’re arguing. Julia chats with them about some pretty substantial arguments that have come up surrounding who does the dishes – and when – and the “proper way” to address the compost bin (they live in San Francisco, just roll with it), as well as The Sandals fight that has everything - dog, finances, managing emotion, WOW what a fight!
Jonathan & Natalie have been together for FOUR YEARS! They met through mutual friends while in line at UCB...and Natalie was crushing on Jonathan hard! Things moved forward when they were out one evening and Jonathan invited Natalie to make out with him in his car. And the rest is history! Julia chats with them about their families and, specifically, the unique ways in which their families influenced the ways in which THEY fight (it’s not what you’d expect!). They also chat about Jonathan’s tone, how most of their fights involve a good cry or two, and how their slightly different political views have created some tension from time to time. It is clear that Jonathan and Natalie really love each other and have found ways to work through their disagreements so that neither of them feel as though they are compromising too much of themselves for the other person, but are living in a way that allows their partner to grow and learn at the same time.
Sarah and Clay have been together for SEVEN YEARS! They met at a college improv festival but the initial “lightning strike” wasn’t necessarily there. Still, they kept up an inside joke through Facebook (posting on each other’s walls...remember the good old days?) for a few years and later reconnected when Sarah visited friends in California. After a great first date at her high school reunion, Sarah and Clay spent a week “moping and G-chatting” once Sarah had to go home to New York but they did NOT want to fall into the long distance relationship trap...until the day they decided to just say YES to the relationship. 7 years later and and they now live together! Their disagreements tend to come back to two things: Sarah is an extrovert, Clay is an introvert, and they have very different love languages. Clay is VERY detail-oriented, which sometimes annoys Sarah; while Sarah needs more validation than Clay organically gives her.